The Erotic Poet- Porn Series: Emma Marié

The Erotic Poet- Porn Series: Emma Marié

Under the name Emma Marié for anonymity purposes, Emma took to the internet to express her thoughts and sexual fantasies in the format of poetry and blog posting as a retreat from her everyday life. Though she is open with her friends and family about her talent for literature, her blog's detachment from her full identity exudes an air of mystery for her audiences. 

In an exclusive interview, Emma explains to Reflexive why she chooses to extend the standard fairytale story and add all the dirty details exposing what really happens during a prince and princess' happy ever after... 

What got you into writing erotica?

I started writing erotica as a parallel to writing the more tamer short story. I liked the intrigue and wanted it to be realistic. The typical story has a beginning, middle, and an end, yet we never get the juicier bits. The lovers kiss then live happily ever after, the prince rescues his princess but she never rewards him with more than her hand in marriage. I wanted to explore the sandwich filling, so to speak. The modern twist on the fairytale where the princess follows her wiles rather than remains prim and proper. I feel that erotica opens up our own rawness and allows us to be honest about what we really enjoy.


Do you think erotica is important for our sex lives, and why?

Yes, I believe so very much. Erotica is simply pleasure and confidence. It is about exploring those dark thoughts and desires which we are brought up to tame. As a woman, we are told to follow a social etiquette of remaining humble and well mannered. Let’s face it, nobody takes a nymph home to meet the parents! 
However, erotica can remain private and can bring couples closer. It is simply about exploring fantasy and mutually agreeing on what to bring into the bedroom. It is also an exploration of the senses and allowing ourselves to let go.

Visual stimulation is primal and is where lust is bred from. Enjoying and appreciating that with a partner creates a mutual understanding and allows for each partner to feel more at ease and enjoy the fantasy alongside the reality of their own relationship. 


What's the process behind each story/ poem and where do you find your inspiration?

There isn’t a process at all. I write directly from my own imagination and experiences. I base a lot of my writing on my own stimulants and fantasy. When I write, I push my own boundaries and disallow myself to hold back. 

I write what I enjoy to read and try to keep it fresh and varied. 

What are your thoughts on the statement "porn is dangerous and causes unrealistic expectations for men and women"?

I think this depends on the context. If the literature, visual stimulant, or characters, are legal and follow protocol then the vulnerability is not an issue. Porn is simple fantasy and is not real, so in essence, should not be dangerous or pose a risk. Of course, there is always the consideration of safeguarding but this could be considered in most areas of society. Nobody should be forced into experimenting with any type of erotica, as a viewer, reader or active participant, and there should be definite boundaries in relationships. There is a vast difference between enjoying erotica in a relationship or as a lone person, and the parallel of skin on skin action. Thus said, I truly believe that everyone’s relationship is their own and what one couple enjoy, may not be another couple's flavour. 

As a strong-willed woman myself, I do not feel degraded by erotica. Erotica only degrades if it offers a specialism arena, which again, is subjective and down to choice. Let’s face it, sex is natural and part of a relationship. It has been a past time for both genders since the beginning of mankind. Historically women were assumed a weaker and submissive role, prowess owned only by the menfolk. This has changed and evolved over time and is evident in erotica. It is no longer a taboo for a woman to state what she wants, when she wants it, and how she wants it. I believe that this liberated a woman sexually, and allows the voice in the bedroom that may have historically been muted. There are many controversial ideas on erotica and women, and many of these are valid. Erotica has many variants and some specialisms may offer perplexed thoughts, however, if they are satisfying an audience and remain legal, then they are providing a service. I truly believe that the erotic subject area is too vast for generalisations. Each individual, regardless of gender, has the right to choose and remain safe and confident. Erotica should simply be a fun way to enhance this, not to increase anxiety or provoke fear or apprehension. 


What sort of feedback do you get from your writing and are you open with your friends and family about your talent?

My partner is supportive and enjoys my writing. I don’t discuss it with family as it doesn’t really fit at the dinner table between the main course and dessert. However, my mum read everything I wrote and found it both amusing and intriguing. I share my writing with close friends. The response is usually positive. One friend would tell me that she was always eagerly awaiting a new story as it was her ‘bedtime’ reading. I keep this part of me more private as I put so much of myself into my work. I encompass many roles in my life and this is my cheeky one, the one I can let go and explore a bit deeper with. Sometimes we all need to remove the restraints and simply let loose. 

If you're eager to enjoy more of Emma's work, click the link here to visit her blog.

We'll leave you with this thought from Emma.

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